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    And you invited me in

    A piece I wrote for my local Mennonite conference.  Check it out.  

    Amy
    29 January, 2020
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    A place at the table

    Preached at Frazer Mennonite Church 

    January 26, 2020

    Based on Matthew 9:9-15

     

    I have vivid memories of my grandparent’s house when I was growing up.  It was a safe place, a place where I knew I was loved unconditionally. My grandparents thought my flutophone playing was brilliant (it wasn’t), they thought my charcoal art phase was frame worthy (it really wasn’t), and they wanted to hear everything about my life and what I was learning and thinking about.  

    The places where we talked about those things was at the table.  There were two important tables at my grandparents house–the dining room table and the kitchen table.  Now, the dining room table was basically a showpiece. We walked by this table on the way to the kitchen.  We rarely ate there, and only on special occasions. And I don’t remember those special occasions happily. Because we had to act right, or get flicked by a parent.  And we had to be very careful because grandmom pulled out her special wedding china for this moment.  

    Grandmom chose this blue danube china when she got married because it looked like the popular blue willow china, but it was a little more elegant, and little less busy to look at, and not nearly as many people had it.  It was unique and special, not not just anyone got to use it. I only remember eating on this china at thanksgiving and a special birthday here or there.  

    And I was terrified to use it.  Because God forbid we broke it. My grandmother was a forgiving woman, but I didn’t want to test those limits, by chipping her beautiful much beloved china.  And how did I know she felt this way? Because we could crawl under the roll top desk, we could dance and spin in her living room, but if we walked by the china hutch and it rattled in the slightest, we would hear her yell for us to stop running in the dining room.  We swore she had eyes in the back of her head, and had been specially equipped with sonar.  

    The dining room was for the well behaved, the righteous among us, those of us who knew how to act, and were sure not to break the nice china.  The dining room was not our favorite place in grandmom’s house.  

    It was the kitchen.  Because there we ate from her everyday dishes, the ones that looked like diner plates.  They were scratched and well worn, they were the everyday dishes for everyday people. These dishes reminded me of bean with bacon soup, homemade apple sauce that was still a little frozen, lima beans, and sugar cookies served with sherbet after we ate a respectable amount of food on our plates.  But mostly these dishes reminded me of our conversations.  

    It was at the little table in the kitchen that my brother and I talked to our grandparents about the books we were reading, or the things we were learning about.  It was there that I asked my Quaker raised grandfather about his military service, his beliefs about pacifism and there that we debated the finer points of the first Iraq war.  It was around the table that I learned stories about my grandmother and her more onery twin sister, and how they grew up the only girls in a house full of boys.  

    It was there around the table, where we had no pretense of perfection, where we didn’t care about the unswept floor or the chipped dishes.  There at the kitchen table my love for my grandparents expanded and deepend, and there over a plate of jello and cool whip, I learned about my family, who I was from, and how that was making me who I am.  

    Meals–I have learned–are a powerful opportunity to build friendships across lines.  

    My mom, was not much of a cook, and neither was my dad.  My dad could make two things–shoo fly pie and molasses crinkles–and my mom’s go to dinner was nachos.  So basically, it’s a miracle I’m alive right now.  

    While my parent’s skills may not have been in the kitchen, they did model something to me about the table.  When I was growing up, folks would always just show up at our door. Some wanted to visit, others wanted my dad’s advice on their car problems.  But it always seemed to be at dinner. And there was always space for someone to be added.  

    I always loved that about my family.  We never knew who would show up for dinner.  These people became dear to us because we had shared a meal with them. Our family dinners were simple, on plates that my mom won with rewards from the IGA grocery promotions.  They weren’t anything special. But they didn’t need to be. It was the time around the table that was important.  

    Jesus loved meeting people in their homes and around food.  In fact, after Jesus called Matthew to follow him, they ended up at Matthew’s house, eating with Matthew’s friends, those that the religious and righteous considered to be sinners.  The conversation around the table, the laughter, the shared food and hospitality were a key part of the ministry.  

    Because at the table, there is an equalizing effect.  We all need to eat, right? And food is about nourishing our body, and about enjoyment. And there’s something disarming about a good meal.  It opens us to joy and conversation. And maybe, we learn some new things about the people at the table with us. 

    The Pharisees must have followed Jesus and Matthew to Matthew’s home, because they saw this jubilant meal, a table full of sinners surrounding Jesus, and they were stressed.  

    The Pharisees were keepers of the law.  They protected the law, because they were worried about the ways that the Jewish laws would be compromised by the Roman occupying forces.  So following the law to the letter became very important. That meant to the Pharisees a deep concern for physical and spiritual cleanliness–that meant not associating with the spiritually and physically unclean.  

    So Jesus’ meal with Matthew and his “sinner” friends was troubling.  

    But who were these sinners?  

    Matthew would have been considered a sinner.  He was a tax collector, collecting taxes on behalf of Rome from his own people.  It was an unpopular job. People didn’t want to hang out with him because he was working for the enemy, and he was taking the money of his neighbors, family and friends for the work of the governing authorities.  It was lonely work. 

    So Matthew’s only other friends were the other social outcasts of the time, others that would dare to dine with Matthew.  Other tax collectors and social outsiders.  

    And Jesus came to them, and gathered them to the table.  He shared food with them. He learned about their lives, and shared stories and laughter with them.  

    When the Pharisees whispered about this scandal near Jesus, he responded to their whispers, saying, “I have come to call not the righteous, but the sinners.”  

    The Pharisees, folks like you and I, were concerned about preserving their faith, maintaining their integrity in difficult times.  But in doing that, they lost the vision. They forgot that the concern for purity, meant exclusion from the table. And Jesus, in this story and in so many others, modelled a table that included and welcomed all.  

    Here’s a hard truth: If we think we have it all together, Jesus did not come for us.  If we are the righteous–or in some translations is reads, the “self righteous”, Jesus didn’t come for us.  But if we are sinners, Jesus is inviting us to this table.  

    And if we are following Jesus, who brought outsiders in and made friends out of strangers, we are inviting our neighbors to our table too.  

    I have a little bit of a complex about inviting people to my table.  Because the table we have has scratches and signs of wear. And my ikea dishwear has scratches that make the plate look more grey than white.  My house is often tidy but rarely as clean as I’d like it to be. I worry about what people will think about my 100% lovable and overly friendly puppy.  I worry that my food isn’t that great.  

    But then I also wonder why I let that stop me. Everyone’s house is a mess.  Everyone’s busy. Everyone has an overeager, dog or child or feels ambivalent about their cooking.  Everyone has chipped dishes or a wobbly chair.  

    Jesus was at the table with people a lot.  His ministry, from beginning to literally the end, is focused on him at a meal with something as simple as bread and wine (or grape juice).  It wasn’t anything fancy.  

    In fact the last meal Jesus shared with his disciples was literally thrown together, with Jesus saying, you find a room where we can eat.  And all of you, remember me when you eat together after I die. 

    I want to envision that meal today not at some stuffy dining room table but at a kitchen table, using everyday plates, not the special ones that we’re afraid to put out.  I envision a table set with mismatched glasses, with pots right off the stove placed on a dish towel trivet.  

    This text has felt like a challenge to me, so I’m going to share this challenge with you.  Can we do more eating together? Can we move our meal sharing beyond the communion table, beyond the Sunday fellowship meal, and into each other’s homes?  And can we move our meal eating beyond eating with people who are exactly like us? Can we invite in folks that are on the edges of our social circles? Can we make family out of strangers?  

    Your house doesn’t have to be perfect.  You can have dust bunnies playing on your hardwood, and a stain on your table cloth.  You can have mismatched silverware and stacks of books on the floor. Your food doesn’t have to be gourmet, and it doesn’t even have to be great.  Because what carries that meal–what makes it special–is that we have expanded our table, extended our reach beyond our small circle and made friends of strangers.  We have invited our fellow sinners to the table, where we are sure to experience Christ. 

    So, my friends, my fellow sinners, let’s do as Jesus taught us.  Let’s confess together that we are sinners in need of Jesus. We are far from righteous.  We need to eat with each other, we need to deepen relationships, we need to widen our welcome to expand who can come to the table.  Because Jesus has not come for the perfect, the righteous, the self-righteous. Jesus has come for us sinners. We need Jesus. We need the bread of life.  We need the cup of salvation.  AMEN. 

    Amy
    29 January, 2020
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    And you invited me in…

    I wrote a piece for my local Mennonite conference newsletter.  Check it out here for a snazzy layout.  

    Or read below:

    Every Summer since 2015, I have been leading a delegation to the West Bank with Christian Peacemaker Teams.  I value the opportunity to walk with people as they understand the occupation from the perspective of everyday folks.  We stay in Palestinian communities, eat local cuisine, and hire Palestinian tour guides and bus drivers. Once we get to Hebron, we join in the work of Christian Peacemaker Teams, as we accompany children to school, and ensure that Palestinian rights are upheld in this occupied West Bank city. 

    One of the other reasons I go is because this place challenges my sense of hospitality.  I always notice, after a trip like this, the limits I have placed on my hospitality. And it is humbling.

    In the summer of 2018, on the first day of the delegation I was leading, I got the delegation lost on our way to our first appointment.  We were on a public bus, and I asked the bus driver if we were going to Old Anata Road. He smiled and nodded, and dropped us off in Anata, the refugee camp.  

    When we got off the bus, I very quickly realized that I was in the wrong place. I asked the shopkeepers if they could speak english.  No one could but a couple helpful shopkeepers called their cousins in the US and Canada and put them on the phone to help me out.  

    I asked the helpful cousins on the other side of the world–where is Old Anata road?  And they said, “Just walk right up the hill and you’ll find it”. I started up the hill, and very quickly we found the separation wall.  And I realized that we were on the wrong side of the wall from our destination.

    I started looking for anyone else that could help.  I ran into a man doing construction and asked again, “Do you speak english?”  He shook his head apologetically, but then lit up. He jumped in his beat up Toyota, and gestured for me and the team to follow him. 

    I wasn’t sure if I should follow this stranger.  But I didn’t know what choice I had. It was painfully hot at 9 in the morning, and we needed help.

    So I asked my delegation to follow me while I followed this stranger wherever he was leading us.  The man began backing his car up the hill, stopping occasionally to gesture to us to follow him. He backed into the driveway of his home, and ran up the stairs to his house, turning to invite us in.  We did not know what to expect. 

    We entered his home, and there sat his entire family in the living room–children, wife, and an Aunt.  They jumped up, and welcomed us to sit where they had been sitting. They brought us water, then tea, then coffee, then pomegranate and grapefruit juice.  And THEN some sweets.  

    Still no one was speaking English.  

    My delegates were looking at me, asking quietly, “What are we doing here? Are we going to get to our destination?” And I asked them to be patient.  

    That’s when Islam walked in.  Islam Issa is 22, beautiful and spoke nearly perfect English, which she learned from watching Hollywood movies.  She greeted us enthusiastically, and we got to know each other. Islam helped me to determine what I already knew–that we were nowhere near our destination.  Her father called a taxi company and they sent us a van to pick us up. But before we left for our next destination, the family insisted that we return the next night for dinner.  

    And we did.  We came back the next night and the Issa family made us mokluba–a chicken, rice and vegetable dish that is a most delicious treat.  They made stuffed grape leaves and baklava and treated us like royal guests. It was so generous, it felt like an embarrassing extravagance.  

    My Arabic is abysmal, and the only one of the Issa family to speak English was Islam, so our “conversations” with this family involved pictures on my phone, gestures and giggles about language barriers. 

    But despite all the limitations, it was one of the best nights of fun I’ve had in quite some time.  We made new friends that night. And these are friends that I speak to still on a regular basis. We “talk” via social media, mostly through emojis with the mom, and with more conversations with Islam.  

    This summer, I visited with the Issa family again, and we enjoyed another evening of hospitality.  I brought them a gift from Frazer Mennonite–a quilted wall hanging. And they fed me nonstop for hours. 

    We’re already making plans for next summer–I’m going to work on my Arabic in preparation for our next visit, and they plan to teach me how to make mokluba.  

    The Issa family stops everything when I am in town.  They welcome me into their home and make me feel so special.  Their generous hospitality always challenges me to look at my own hospitality. What are my cultural limits?  What are my personal limits? Why do make sharing a meal and time with friends (and strangers) less of a priority than tasks and productivity?

    I have deep gratitude for the care and hospitality I am shown in Palestine.  Given our country’s policies, they could hate me. I wouldn’t blame them if they did.  And yet, Palestinians like the Issa family have shared food, time, laughter and conversation with me. I reminds me of the time that Jesus, himself a Palestinian, shared with people.  His agenda was a meal shared with friends. His last instructions to us was to eat, drink and remember him.  

    These yearly trips to Palestine are two weeks of communion. I bring that home, and use that to challenge the ways I spend my time.  Is my time about busyness, or is it about conversation, a shared meal and deeper relationship?

    Amy
    25 January, 2020
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    Be Opened

    Preached at Frazer Mennonite Church

    Based on Mark 7:24-37

    Jesus was heading into Canaanite territory to take a respite from his work.  He didn’t want to be noticed. But it was difficult for the Rabbi to be incognito in Tyre and Sidon.  Because he wasn’t Canaanite. Jesus was an Israelite, a Jew, a Rabbi. And he probably stood out in Canaanite territory. He probably didn’t look or dress like the Canaanites of the area.

    He certainly caught the attention of one woman, who recognized Jesus right away.  This woman, described as Syrophoenician in this text, and Canaanite in others, was Gentile, she was from the area, she spoke Greek, and she knew all about Israelite men.    She knew of the long standing rivalry between Canaanites and Israelites, going back thousands of years to the time when Moses sent the Israelites into the promised land, a land flowing with milk and honey, and a land that happened to be already inhabited by Canaanites.  

    Just as an aside, there isn’t a difference between Canaanite and Syrophonecian–but this story shows up in two different gospels and calls the women different things.  She is called different things because the authors were talking to different people. Matthew knew that the Jewish community would know exactly who the Canaanites were. And Mark understood that the Romans audience would relate more to the term Syrophonecian.  Same woman, but written to different audiences who would understand different terms.  

    This Canaanite/Syrophonecian woman knew that an Israelite man would take one look at her, and determine that he was better than she was, simply because of this conflict–inscribed into Israelite mythology–that went back millenia.  It’s not something that Jesus was conscious of, but it was taught to his parents and their parents and theirs. This feeling of superiority went way back and was buried deeply in Jesus’ human DNA.

    But this woman was desperate–her daughter was sick, and when your kid is sick or hurting, you do desperate things for them.  

    So she went to Jesus, who looked out of place in Tyre and Sidon, but who also looked like a Holy Man, and asked him to heal her daughter.  

    Desperate words from a desperate woman.  

    I probably say this about a lot of bible stories, but I really mean it this time.  This one of my favorite stories. The gospels that include this story tell it a little differently, but the common factor is that Jesus’ ministry changed because Jesus met this woman.  What started out for Jesus as a reform movement for Judaism, became a movement that included all people–and, I believe that his ministry pivoted around this encounter in the gospel accounts where this story is included. What a cool story.

    Everything for Jesus changed after this encounter with the Canaanite woman.  Jesus began to hang out with non-Jews, he began to heal them, to eat with them, to share life with them.  All because this Gentile woman asked Jesus to heal her daughter.

    I want to be careful here not to overlook the details of this encounter.  Because it wasn’t an easy one for Jesus or the Canaanite woman. Because Jesus said some mean, un-thinking words to the woman.  He compared her to a dog.

    And the woman–even though she’s desperate for help–did not take this remark silently.  She gave Jesus a comeback that changed his ministry. When Jesus referred to her a a dog, she replied, “Even the dogs get the crumbs from the table.”  Even we Canaanites deserve a little something, Jesus. We Canaanites are human, you know. We are more than the savage stories written in your holy book.

    When I read this story I notice the bravery of this woman.  That’s important. It’s a big deal that she responded to his remarks.  She didn’t have to. She could have walked away. But she stood up to Jesus. 

    And I also notice that Jesus didn’t get indignant when this woman corrected him.  He wasn’t mad. He didn’t say, “I didn’t mean it like that”, or “I don’t think you understood what I was saying,” or “Why does everyone have to be so politically correct nowadays.”  He didn’t say, “Give me a break, lady” or “You Canaanites are so touchy.” He heard her correction. He received her admonition. He recognized that he was wrong to refer to her as a dog.  And he changed course because of it. 

    Jesus changed because this woman, this foreigner, called him out.  

    How many of you are wondering if I just suggested that Jesus sinned?  

    This is not what I’m suggesting.  I think Jesus responded to this woman because that was what he was taught to do.  And when this Canaanite woman showed Jesus the ways his words were dehumanizing, Jesus learned something and changed.  Jesus’ sin here could have been if he continued to call Gentiles dogs, or continued to see Canaanites as less than the beautiful humans they were created by God to be. But he didn’t.  He changed. 

    This call out from Jesus has me reflecting on my life and the times I’ve been called out.  I’ve certainly received my fair share of call outs from colleagues, from friends and family. I’ve been working on being grateful for them all.  I certainly haven’t always taken them kindly. Some of them have made me angry, hurt my feelings and left me reeling for days and even weeks.

    But in the end, these call outs have shown me my growing edges, have forced me to at least consider change, rather than digging in my heels.  

    And let’s face it, we cannot grow until we encounter other world views and perspectives that shake our own assumptions, that challenge the dominant, supersessionist language we use, and that force us to change.  

    The first queer people I met in college forced me to change.  When one friend came out to me, and asked me, with tears in her eyes, “Am I going to hell because I love another woman?”, I had to change how I read the scripture, and how I understood love and desire.

    When I met Jewish folks that called me out on the anti-semetic ways I had been taught to read the text, I had to change how I read the scripture, and how I talked about other religious groups.  

    My first encounter with a Palestinian man happened at Christian Peacemaker Teams meetings in 2011.  He reflected on the ways that Christian Zionism has made life difficult for his people on the other side of the world. I had to change.

    And when my family tells me I’m being petty and holding onto a feeling or experience it’s time to let go of, that is a moment of recognizing my need to change.  

    Those behavior and perspective changes mean that life can’t go on as usual.  I had to live differently because of these moments. 

    Jesus took the criticism of the Canaanite woman.  Because, she was right. There’s never a good or right reason to compare someone to an animal, to dehumanize them.  

    In fact, Jesus went as far as to say that this woman’s child had been healed because she called out Jesus.  Jesus changed, this woman’s daughter was healed, and Jesus’ ministry took a turn towards inclusion.

    But this isn’t the end of the story.  We read in the next story about how Jesus changed.  

    When Jesus left the region where he met this Canaanite woman, Jesus met more people that needed healing.  And Jesus didn’t turn them away. In fact, Jesus was so transformed and moved by the encounter with the Canaanite woman, that he healed one person by putting his fingers in their ears, and uttering to the heavens “Ephphatha”, which means “be opened.”

    This word, Ephphatha, is a Greek form of Aramaic, a language certainly used by the Canaanite woman.  Jesus was so transformed by his encounter with the Canaanite woman, that he used her language, her dialect, to call out to God.  

    This is no magic word.  In fact, I wonder if this word is a reminder to Jesus that he too must stay open.  He must be opened by the encounters he has with those he met. In opening the ears of that person, Jesus himself knew how much more open his heart, his ears, his eyes and his mind needed to be as his ministry continued.  

    Be opened.  Stay opened.  Ephphatha.

    Our inclinations in difficult encounters is to be closed, to protect ourselves from criticism, to save face and avoid looking like a jerk.  

    But what if we did the more difficult thing.  What if we called ourselves to Be Opened. What if we called out to God for an openness, a willingness to change, a desire to be moved in an unknown direction.  

    Jesus was challenged by a foreign woman to see the work of God as bigger than just for the Israelites.  She asked Jesus to see her humanity, to see that God’s love was for the Canaanites, the Kushites, the Midionites, the Romans, the Greeks, the offenders, the victims, the poor, the rich, the included and excluded.

    Jesus saw in this encounter that he had a bigger project than he had even anticipated.  And he took it on. He learned from his mistakes. He healed those he encountered. And he called on God–Ephphatha. Be opened.  Stay opened.

     Let us too be open to call outs, because they show us our boundaries and limits.  And they may even show us those places where we are being pushed. Ephphatha. Be opened. Stay Opened. AMEN.

    Amy
    25 January, 2020
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